Author Archives: thePhoebeStone

What is the fuss about bathrooms?

tl:dr Law in North Carolina says “cisgender women’s rights” are being violated at an infinitesimal rate, to be safe, “TRANSGENDER Civil rights” need to be taken away. With bills like HB2 in North Carolina coming to fruition, stomping on the … Continue reading

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What is Civil Respect?

There are several ways I was originally thinking of breaking this question down in this piece. The easiest would be for me to bring up the classic Golden Rule “do unto others as you would want done unto you,” and … Continue reading

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What is biological sex?

Sometimes people like to throw around that, being a trans woman myself, I have XY chromosomes therefore am a man, it’s biology and you can’t deny it! So, I would like to finally shed some light on this topic, and … Continue reading

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Opinion: The weatherman will always only be 50% correct.

I gotta have one post that is something that drives me nuts when someone complains about how the ‘weather guy‘ is always ‘wrong‘. They have the best equipment working for them, trying to predict how things may go, to make … Continue reading

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Argument #16: Men and women are opposites.

Not too long ago I learned something that changed how I see almost everything about gender. I had finally picked up the book “Whipping Girl” by Julia Serano, and one thing she brings up is something called “oppositional sexism”. Oppositional … Continue reading

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Argument #15: You aren’t biologically a woman/man, because you were born a man/woman

I cover this in more detail here: What is biological sex? Bio-who-whatsit-gical? You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. Biology; [bahy-ol–uh-jee] noun 1. the science of life or living matter in … Continue reading

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Argument #14: You are a man who’s attracted to a trans woman, therefore you are gay.

Oh boy… so, this is a very popular myth held by most the people you will find in this country. It is something that to me, someone fortunate enough to be in a very unique vantage point on this kind … Continue reading

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Opinion: How to give respect when you really don’t know anything about anyone who’s transgender.

Here’s a simple little guide for all the friends or family out there in the world who may have had someone in their lives who maybe recently has come out as transgender, or have even known for a while, and … Continue reading

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Argument #13: The self-mutilation trans* people put themselves through = mentally ill person.

Here’s a quickie to get this off my mind. This is a big one I see all the time, about how wrong the person must be in the head for them to “self-mutilate” themselves to match their bodies to their … Continue reading

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Argument #12: Transgender individuals are lying about being the gender they say they are, and it’s a sin to agree with this delusion.

I feel like I am kind of repeating myself with this one… but looked at in a different light. Yesterday I stumbled upon a blog written by someone who was Christian who made a post called “A Christian response to … Continue reading

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Argument #11: Trans people have the same rights as everyone else.

I just had this bomb dropped on me in a conversation I had with someone the other day… they thought that the transgender movement for rights is silly, and that trans people have the same rights as any other American. … Continue reading

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Argument #10: What about the children? They will be all messed up in the head with a trans* parent.

Storytime!!! Here’s a story of an event I experienced that to this day really grinds my gears… Back during Christmas of last year, during the daytime a little gathering was held at my father and step-mother’s house. My brother, his … Continue reading

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Argument #9: Statements that are not so good to bring up to trans* individuals!

This post may be a little different than my other arguments but I wanted to make a quick one to hopefully offer to you, the reader, some insight into three statements that are commonly said about someone who is either … Continue reading

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Opinion: Trans* visibility and relationships.

Here is a very VERY common situation that unfortunately adds to the list of fears people have that are AGAINST trans* individuals… There is a trans-woman who has had this secret of being who they are due to the taboo … Continue reading

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Argument #8: You are transsexual, so that means you are gay/lesbian.

I heard this one from a co-worker of mine who asked me this just last night when I came out to her as transsexual. When I first got hired she was telling another co-worker of ours that she thought I … Continue reading

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Argument #7: You’re just a man/woman in drag who only likes to get off wearing womens/mens clothing.

I just wanna start this one off by saying that this is just a poor excuse to try to belittle someone. Really. To the person who tries to tell me this can I ask you something… do you even know … Continue reading

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Argument #6: Animals aren’t transgender, so it’s unnatural.

This one likes to be thrown around a lot and so I wanted to get to the bottom line and I asked my dog personally if she or any of her friends are transgender. She replied, “Woof woof, bark arf … Continue reading

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Opinion: On men and all things that are girly.

What is it with guys and being ashamed about doing anything that’s considered feminine? You see it all the time with phrases like, “Don’t be a pussy”, and “Man up”. I just don’t get it. I know I probably don’t … Continue reading

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Argument #5: Transgender people should only use the bathroom of their birth sex.

The great bathroom debate. This is one of the biggest arguments that stirs the most controversy regarding the rights of the transgender community. You can find many good articles that┬ádebunk the myths, or explains from the trans* point of view, … Continue reading

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Argument #4: Having “Gender Dysphoria” is equivalent to having “Species Dysphoria”.

Here is an argument that I actually hear more often then you would think… and this is one where I will actually give you a quote from someone I encountered from user “SpeechRacer” on YouTube: I think the trans person … Continue reading

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Opinion: Respect is earned, not guaranteed.

Okay so this is a quickie I just wanted to throw out there and get it out of the way. This is also something that should be quite apparent in the human condition, and I shouldn’t really need to explain … Continue reading

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Argument #3: Being transgender is either a mental illness or a cry for attention.

This argument itself is a cry for attention! Don’t get me wrong, there are individuals out there that say they are transgender just for the attention… and you can spot these people right off the bat if they say something … Continue reading

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Argument #2: His/her chromosomes are XY/XX so he/she is not a woman/man.

Just as common as argument #1, this is another popular one said by transphobic people to try to delegitimise an individual’s transgender experience and before I continue, I just want to let you know that your chromosomes are showing… you … Continue reading

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Argument #1: He/she’s not a woman/man because penis = man, and vagina = woman.

One of the most archaic of mindsets when it comes to defining trans* folk… and usually one of the first things someone chooses to attack when trying to delegitimise their personal experience, this is what is believed by most people … Continue reading

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